Listening to Your Spirit

“My definition of guilt is quite simple:  when you try to force yourself to do something you don’t really want to do….  Anytime you hear yourself say, ‘I should, I’m supposed to, I have to,’ you have ignored your spirit to please your tribe.

“Coming into harmony with your soul releases the tension in your body and eliminates the mental Ping-Pong.  When you hear your spirit, there is a huge surge of energy with a wonderful feeling of relief.  Suddenly you are awake, alert, and fully alive and ready to live.”

— Christel Nani, Sacred Choices, p. 49


“You do not want ‘obedience’ in your home, you want cooperation.  When people feel valued, they cooperate.  When they don’t feel valued, they resist what feels to them like submission.  The keys to resentment-free cooperation are making behavior requests, instead of demands and, above all, tolerance of differences.

When a partner gives in to a demand, he’ll be resentful.”

— Steven Stosny, Compassion Power Boot Camp

Statement of Core Value

“I am worthy of respect, value, and compassion, whether or not I get them from others.  If I don’t get them from others, it is necessary to feel more worthy, not less.  It is necessary to affirm my own deep value as a unique person (a child of God).  I respect and value myself.  I have compassion for my hurt.  I have compassion for the hurt of others.  I trust myself to act in my best interests and in the best interests of loved ones.”

— Steven Stosny, Manual of the Core Value Workshop, p. 14

Core Value

“Core Value is an emotional awareness that no problem, behavior, or event can reduce your value as a person….

“The impulse to control or harm tells you that your Core Value is too low….

“People experience Core Value most frequently as motivation to improve, appreciate, protect, or connect.

— Steven Stosny, Manual of the Core Value Workshop, p. 14