Choosing Happiness

We need to make the choice to be happy in a particular situation, just as it is, and at a given moment.  It might not be a perfect moment, but it is ours; we are breathing; we are alive.  We choose our happiness incrementally, moment by moment, hour by hour.  Now.

— Alexandra Stoddard, Choosing Happiness:  Keys to a Joyful Life, p. 1

Perspective

Remember to ask Jesus to stand between you and your spouse, and to say only things you would say to Jesus and to listen to everything through the heart of Jesus.  When I have felt discouraged, thinking all this was unfair, I often hear Jesus from the cross saying, “And me, what have I done to deserve this?”  Bear your cross with humility, patience, and confidence in the Lord.

— testimonial in Your Father Knows Best, compiled by Bob and Charlyne Steinkamp, p. 71

Love yourself by feeling compassion

In the Love yourself step, recognize the core value of the person who offended you.  He/she is far more complicated, complex, and humane than whatever he or she did to you.  Appreciating the complexity of other people reinforces your own value….

Feel compassion, not for the behavior, but for the hurt.

— Steven Stosny, You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore, p. 206

Generosity

The heart expands not by taking more in, but by giving more away.

We can be generous people because we have been given generous gifts.

We’re greedy because we think there’s a limited supply.

There is an unlimited supply of the things our hearts really long for.

Live with expanding hearts.

— Pastor Ed Allen, December 2, 2007

God’s Guidance

Here I am moving from point A to point B to point C — in a fog.  I turn to God and say, “How do I get to point D?”  But God gently replies, “Take my hand and I will lead you out of the fog.”  Then I get stubborn and say, “You didn’t answer my question!”

— Hugh Prather, Spiritual Notes to Myself, p. 10