How to Feel Better
No matter how bad you feel, if you do one of these — improve, appreciate, protect or connect — you will feel better. — Steven Stosny, You Don’t Have to…
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Resentment vs. Compassion
Most human beings subjected to the amplification, magnification, and oversimplification of resentment or anger get resentful, contentious, or sulky in return, just like you do. Resentment and anger also cause…
The Purpose of Emotional Pain
Emotional pain moves you to do something that will make you feel more alive, not numb. The primary purpose of emotional pain is to make us take action to increase…
Real Power
Real power is acting in your best interests, and your long-term emotional best interests depend entirely on acting according to your deepest values. If you do that, you will feel…
Breaking the Chain of Resentment
The first thing to realize about the terrible Chain of Resentment is that you don’t have to feel it. The experience of resentment is a choice you make. The second…
Real Power
Real personal power comes from focusing on what you can control, from acting in your best interests. You feel empowered when you control how you behave, in accordance with your…
Empowering Children
The greatest leverage parents have to help and guide children is to form strong, resentment-free emotional bonds with them, based on value, mutual respect, and empowerment. Empowerment gives someone the…
Caution
You cannot diminish or hurt the parent of your children without diminishing and hurting your children. — Steven Stosny, Manual of the Core Value Workshop, p. 48
A More Compelling Right
You have an absolute right to be resentful and angry, but exercising that right will only keep the thorns in your heart. You have a more compelling right to heal…
Conviction, not Anger
Conviction is for something, like justice and fair treatment, while anger and resentment are against something, like injustice or unfair treatment. Those who hate injustice want retribution and triumph, not…