Integrity and honesty are noble. Suffering is not required. In fact, when you suffer, it’s easy to forget about the rest of the world. Personal suffering tends to obscure our vision beyond our own pain and to cut us off from community….
When people rewrite and heal their limiting belief about suffering, they begin to look outward, not inward. There would be more focus in the world on helping others and being of service rather than on one’s own wounds or suffering. People’s attention would not be on keeping a good reputation (as one who suffers and is therefore noble), but connecting with the person next door who could use some assistance.
— Christel Nani, Sacred Choices, p. 208