Review of Secure, by Amir Levine

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Secure

The Revolutionary Guide to Creating a Secure Life

by Amir Levine, MD

Tarcher, 2026. 264 pages.
Review written August 30, 2026, from a library book.

I’m a little ambivalent about this book. When I read Attached, back in 2012, I thought Aha! That’s what went wrong in my marriage! I have an Anxious attachment style and he had an Avoidant one.

But hold on. At the end of our relationship, my husband was having an affair. So yes, I was Anxious about our relationship. Yes, I noticed all kinds of little clues that something was wrong. And yes, he was avoiding closeness. He was trying to keep me from finding out the truth. This doesn’t mean it’s an enduring truth about me.

I’ve had two short-term boyfriends since getting divorced. With the first one, I was, honestly, looking for a new husband and a little quick to conclude maybe I’d found one. In that scenario, is it any wonder he came across as Avoidant, and I came across as Anxious?

But funny thing, in the next relationship, I was never completely sure we were a good match (and ultimately was the one who decided we were not) – and I had absolutely no trouble at all with Anxious behaviors. You could say it’s because I didn’t really Attach, but through the whole thing I felt Secure. I enjoyed the time we had together, but I wasn’t overly concerned whether it was going to continue or not.

In this book, they admit right off the bat that different relationships will have different levels of security. They’ve got a little test to rate yourself on different relationships. They do have a general test of your attachment style – and not being in a relationship at all, I came out as Secure, by that measure.

So I guess I’m trying to say that conclusions you may have made about yourself based on the original book about Attachment Theory really may depend on the situation.

This book is about helping make your attachments more secure.

Interesting to me, as part of #Sonderbooks25 celebrating 25 years of writing Sonderbooks, I’ve been reading quotes I posted on my Sonderquotes blog in 2008. Many of those quotes were from Codepent No More, by Melody Beattie, and The Little Book of Letting Go, by Hugh Prather – and the general drift of so many of the quotes that struck me when I was in the midst of healing from being cheated on were similar to the advice here about becoming more secure if you have a tendency to be anxious.

So it’s not bad advice. There are good nuggets here. With the distance of years, I’m thinking that at times there are reasons your attachment may become insecure that aren’t a reflection on your “attachment style.”

The fundamentals of a Secure life that he presents are surrounding yourself with people who are CARRP – Consistent, Available, Responsive, Reliable, and Predictable. So I think what I’m trying to say is that if you are attached to someone who suddenly stops being those things (like a cheating husband), your attachment to them will stop being secure. This book helps you feel more secure in yourself and helps you know when to let go as well as when to be willing to attach (for those tending toward avoidance).

He’s got some more detailed ways to help you adjust in different situations, and tips to help keep out of pitfalls for the different attachment styles. There are several situations presented, and I did well on the little quizzes, so maybe I have learned to be secure.

So this book goes a little further into attachment styles. It doesn’t merely diagnose, but also gives ideas and strategies for becoming more secure. I think I might have found it more helpful if I were currently in a romantic relationship.

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Review of Jesus and John Wayne, by Kristin Kobes Du Mez

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Jesus and John Wayne

How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation

by Kristin Kobes Du Mez

Liveright Publishing, 2020. 356 pages.
Review written September 25, 2026, from my own copy, purchased via Amazon.com.
Starred Review

I don’t remember which of many recommendations prompted me to order my own copy of Jesus and John Wayne right around the time it first came out, but I know there were many, and I was happy to order it. Once I had it, I’m afraid it competed with the library books I had checked out, but didn’t have a due date. (This is something I often have to contend with.) This is also a history book, and a little dense. Yes, it’s a history of what Christians were doing, but it didn’t seem right for devotional reading, which often jumps to the top of my queue.

But then after my proposal was accepted and I got to be a co-creator at Wild Goose Festival, I saw that Kristin Du Mez was going to be there, too! And her new book, Live Laugh Love sounded similar, but talking more about “Christian femininity” than the focus on masculinity in Jesus and John Wayne. So I preordered the new book, and decided I really should get the old one read before the festival.

Well, I was halfway through Jesus and John Wayne when I went to Wild Goose Festival and got to hear the author speak twice. She talked about both books, and now I’m all the more eager to read the next one, which arrived on the publication date this week.

This is a history book about white evangelicalism in America, and how the movement got carried away with the idea of rugged masculinity epitomized by John Wayne.

The book starts with the early twentieth century and looks at people like Billy Sunday, Billy Graham, and John Wayne. It finishes in 2020 and Donald Trump – who got support from 80% of white evangelicals.

Along the way, we see a turn toward rugged masculinity as the way God designed men and complementarianism as God’s plan for marriage, and overall structures of authoritarianism as God’s design for society.

I grew up pretty deep in evangelical circles. I attended Christian schools through college (I was a little disappointed that my alma mater, Biola University, wasn’t mentioned.), and went to Bill Gothard’s Institute in Basic Youth Conflicts seminars before I was even a teen.

However, I got more and more progressive in my politics after college, and from 1996 to 2006, lived in Germany with my husband in the military – and thus completely missed the rise of Fox News and some of these other developments. Reading this book was fascinating to me, because so much was familiar, yet a lot I hadn’t noticed at all.

Another interesting thing to me was that while I was physically reading this book, a chapter at a time, I was listening to the audiobook version of Ibram X. Kendi’s latest book, Chain of Ideas, about right-wing political parties all over the globe. There were times when I was listening that I thought, “Yeah, they just mentioned that” – and I realized, no, I’d read about it in the other book (or vice versa).

This book also dovetails well with Sheila Wray Gregoire’s writings on marriage and Marissa Franks Burt’s writings on parenting, because both marriage and parenting are affected by the developing teaching that men are to be authority figures in the church and in the home.

It’s also interesting reading for me as someone coming out of evangelicalism, having my eyes opened to some trends I went along with and didn’t see. Sheila Wray Gregoire had already opened my eyes about books like Love and Respect, but this book helped me notice the militaristic background to John Eldredge’s writings that had blown right past me.

Back in 2016, I was incredulous that the same folks who told me that Bill Clinton should not be president because of his immorality were now supporting Donald Trump, who bragged about “not even asking” women before he sexually assaulted them. This book helped me understand the way the culture of evangelicalism and all its trends slowly changed so that Donald Trump epitomized exactly what people were looking for.

At Wild Goose Festival, the author explained that her editor told her she had to end on a hopeful note, but she had trouble coming up with anything. Here’s how the book finishes:

Although the evangelical cult of masculinity stretches back decades, its emergence was never inevitable. Over the years it has been embraced, amplified, challenged, and resisted. Evangelical men themselves have promoted alternative models, elevating gentleness and self-control, a commitment to peace, and a divestment of power as expressions of authentic Christian manhood. Yet, understanding the catalyzing role militant Christian masculinity has played over the past half century is critical to understanding American evangelicalism today, and the nation’s fractured political landscape. Appreciating how this ideology developed over time is also essential for those who wish to dismantle it. What was once done might also be undone.

You’ll find detailed, well-researched history here, supported with 32 pages of small-print citations at the back. As someone who grew up in that world, I gained wider understanding of how it morphed to what it is today. I can’t wait to read her next book, focusing on women!

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Review of Work in Progress, by James Martin, SJ

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Work in Progress

Confessions of a Busboy, Dishwasher, Caddy, Usher, Factory Worker, Bank Teller, Corporate Tool, and Priest

by James Martin, SJ

HarperOne, 2026. 352 pages.
Review written June 11, 2026, from a library book.
Starred Review

I just finished reading a book by the same author about the life of Jesus – in the context of the author’s trip to the Holy Land. It was packed full of spiritual insights and meaningful applications from the Bible and blessed me on every page. This book was completely different.

Don’t get me wrong – Fr. Martin is a great writer, and I enjoyed this book thoroughly. But it’s a memoir about growing up in Philadelphia – and all the different jobs he tried and what he learned from them. Yes, there’s some wisdom along the way (mostly what he didn’t learn as a kid) – but this is a just plain fun story.

The subtitle gives you a hint at the variety of jobs he covers. And he tells about them with a full dose of humor at the kid he was, doing good work, but mainly wanting to have a good time.

I enjoyed the stories – beginning with when the Bicentennial Wagon Train went by the Ice Cream Inn where he was working, he cleared all the tables while the customers were out watching it, not realizing what was going on. Fr. Martin is apparently only a few years older than me, so I remembered being young during those same years.

Honestly, there were few hints that this kid – who he freely admits was partying, drinking, and smoking pot – would end up becoming a priest. He covers that calling in the last chapter, and yes, we get some spiritual insights to go with the fun there.

But mainly this is a story of student jobs in the America of the 70s and 80s – in the hands of a skilled and personable writer. A lot of fun to relive the escapades with him.

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Review of Counterweights, by Shannan Martin

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Counterweights

An Essential Practice for Holding Hope in a Heavy World

by Shannan Martin

Revell, 2026. 238 pages.
Review written July 8, 2026, from my own book, purchased via Amazon.com.
Starred Review

Over several years since it was my Sonderbooks Stand-out in 2016, I’ve gone through the book Champagne for the Soul with two of my small groups (as well as on my own) – and both times it set our group spotting joys, looking for things to be joyful about in daily life.

But sometimes I feel a bit guilty looking for joys when there’s so much trouble in the world. When people are being oppressed and injustice is rampant, is it right to take pleasure in a sighting of a great blue heron?

This book fully acknowledges the weight of the world. And Shannan Martin frames finding joys as looking for counterweights.

She begins with a metaphor that she learned as a child that it’s easier to carry heavy weights if you have one bucket on each side.

Abundance isn’t experienced by merely counting our blessings but by countering our weights.

The essays that follow are a collection of some of the weights and counterweights I’ve faced, mostly over a few years’ time, which I believe deserve our sacred attention. Some of my hardships have been uniquely personal, while others have tied all of us in knots. Others have been secondary: the contact burns of paying attention to a world where, most often, trauma lands hardest on those who are already vulnerable. These weights range from mundane to dizzyingly dramatic. But at every turn, goodness has waited for me to take notice and scoop it up, leveling the load of life’s endless dualities.

I love the way this doesn’t dismiss or minimize the weights, but shows that the weights make the counterweights all the more necessary.

This is not a “silver lining” situation, where pain and injustice are minimized for the sake of flimsy optimism or playing nice. It’s not even about hoarding our favorite things. We are not guaranteed to have those things within our reach. The practice of gathering counterweights is about creating moments of sustenance from the raw materials of what we’re given. It is about holding everything in honest tension. Both/and. Our counterweights help us move forward and breathe through the heaviness. At their best, they can’t be bought or sold. They aren’t a matter of luck or reserved for the privileged. They are widely accessible and casually weird, entirely personal and communal to their core. They are their own reward. And they are happening all the time, ready to steady us on our feet.

So that’s what you’ve got in this book – stories of weighty matters, but also counterweights, things that bring joy. And it’s a lovely model for dealing with our own weights.

After all:

Counterweights are everywhere. But it’s up to us to slow down and see them.

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Review of Good Writing, by Neal Allen and Anne Lamott

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Good Writing

36 Ways to Improve Your Sentences

by Neal Allen and Anne Lamott

Avery (Penguin Random House), 2026. 200 pages.
Review written August 18, 2026, from my own copy, purchased via Amazon.com.
Starred Review

I already loved Anne Lamott. Her vulnerable writing with self-deprecating humor and relatability won me over long ago. Now she’s written a book with her husband about how to write better, and preordering my own copy was a no-brainer.

Preorder? But this book has been out a few months. Yes, well, it’s the perfect book for reading a chapter a day (most days) and trying to absorb the wisdom. It’s also going to be a book I want to keep handy for when I’m revising my writing. I’m self-conscious about the rules I’m breaking in writing this review – but it’s not about squelching writing, it’s about making writing better, about improving sentences. (Anne does recommend pulling it out on the third draft of a book, which she calls the “dental draft” for in-depth cleaning.)

The set up of the book is 36 short chapters with writing rules from Neal’s years of experience as a journalist. And then in each chapter, Anne chimes in. She does some teasing and a little sniping, but the two writers’ love and respect for each other shines through and is a delight to read even if it wouldn’t help your own writing.

I like how Anne explains it in the Introduction:

My teaching has mostly been about the attitude of writing: gaining the confidence to get your stories told, to stop not writing, to tell the truthiest truth, make the plunge into empathy, and, mostly, to develop the habit of keeping your butt in the chair every day. Neal tends more toward encouraging people to write better sentences and paragraphs. Hence this book, and my own fixation with the best possible sentences I can write.

The rules you’ll find here are basic but universal: “Use Strong Verbs,” “Don’t Show Off,” “Trust Your Voice,” “Drop ‘Very’ and Other Crutch Words,” “Jettison [All Those] Tiny Words.”

Neal makes the case that you’ll find these rules helpful even if you don’t think of yourself as a writer:

These rules of good writing don’t exist only on the written page. They inform all types of communication, including everyday speech. We enjoy being entertained and persuaded in conversation, on film, through headphones, in private, and out in crowds. Instead of reading, people are listening – to books, yes, but also to experts on podcasts. As those experts script or improvise their words, they’re following many of the rules of rhetoric and persuasion that lifted Pericles two millennia ago and later, Shakespeare. Strong verbs keep the listener’s attention exactly the same way they keep the reader’s. I can’t prove it, but I tend to believe that the rules of persuasion and sentence-making will survive any changes in media, and may always assist us in refining the words we use to understand the human experience.

And I love Anne’s take on that:

Neal shared these thirty-six rules with me on our fourth or fifth date, and while their simplicity and brilliance were not the main reason I agreed to marry him a couple of years later, they didn’t hurt. His rules helped me become a better writer, and if you follow them, your writing will get better, too. Your work will get more economical, sharper, and more riveting. It is possible that it will become both more fun for us to read and more fun for you to write. Our hope is that you will be able to edit your work in a more focused and efficient way. Long, boring descriptions, out; generic verbs, out; endlessly inserted adjectives and adverbs, out out out. And clichés, feh! You can do better.

Writers, if you haven’t yet read Anne’s Bird by Bird, you absolutely need to do that! After that book gets you to write and to get your shitty first draft down on paper, this book will help you make that draft much less shitty.

And we’ll all be happier to read your writing.

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Review of Unclobber, by Colby Martin

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Unclobber

Rethinking our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality

by Colby Martin

Westminster John Knox Press, 2022. 218 pages.
Review written August 6, 2026, from my own copy, purchased via Amazon.com
Starred Review

I’ve owned this book for quite some time, and since I am attending Wild Goose Festival this coming September, and the author will be there – I wanted to make sure I finally got it read.

This book would have been helpful to me several years ago when I was thinking through the Bible’s teachings on homosexuality. As it is, I am so glad this resource exists.

My background is similar to Colby Martin’s – I grew up a conservative evangelical, and my life was about my faith. I did not become a pastor – because I was a woman, so of course not. He was a pastor at a large evangelical church, so when he started questioning his church’s blanket condemnation of gay people, he got fired.

This book tells about his journey. And in alternating chapters, he talks about the six “Clobber” passages in the Bible that are used to condemn homosexual people. And he makes a strong case that modern day readers are taking them out of context and not interpreting them in a legitimate way.

He didn’t come to this because of anybody in his life who was gay. He began researching the topic because it seemed like a discrimination issue to not allow same-sex couples to get married, whether or not you think it’s sinful.

I appreciate his approach, because I, too, felt in my heart that it wasn’t right to condemn same-sex couples, but wasn’t sure how to square that with the Bible. I like the way he looks at each passage and lays out the case that they are being misused.

I am at least twenty years older than Colby Martin, and this wasn’t as big an issue (or rather one I could ignore) in the churches I attended when I was young. As an adult, I gradually changed my way of thinking with the help of books like God Believes in Love, by Gene Robinson, and Paul Among the People, by Sarah Ruden.

I didn’t think it affected me, but when Caitlin Jenner came out as transgender, I thought it through and realized that I didn’t believe for a second that’s contrary to Scripture. I was glad I thought it through, because it wasn’t long after that when my own adult child came out as transgender. And a few years later, my home church decided to make it part of their church constitution that LGBTQ people are sinning. I wrote a whole blog series about why I think churches should welcome LGBTQ people, especially transgender people. I called it Transcending. I used some ideas from Austen Hartke’s, a transgender pastor’s, wonderful book, Transforming. My emphasis is similar to Colby Martin’s here. What does the Bible have to say about transgender people?

All of this ties in with a book I recently reviewed, Better Ways to Read the Bible, by Zack Lambert. If you are interpreting the Bible so it can be used as a weapon to clobber people, rather than to build people up with love, joy, peace, and the other fruit of the Spirit – then something is wrong with your interpretation. Colby Martin shows us how we can rightly divide the word of truth and also be more loving people.

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Review of The Yahoo Boys, by Carlos Barragán

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The Yahoo Boys

Love, Deception, and the Real Lives of Nigeria’s Romance Scammers

by Carlos Barragán

Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2026. 287 pages.
Review written August 3, 2026, from a library book.

Carlos Barragán traveled to Nigeria to see if he could find his mother’s scammer. He didn’t find that particular person, but he did get to know several “Yahoo boys” – called that because emailing with Yahoo accounts was the main way they made money. This is the story of these young men, and how and why they do what they do.

Full disclosure: While I have never sent money to someone I met online (though I have fallen for a fake online store at least once), twice I emailed for a few weeks with a person from a dating site who turned out to be a scammer. And I do know of people who have lost money this way. So I don’t have much sympathy for people who do this.

This book, though, helped me understand a little better how young men could fall into this. The economy in Nigeria is terrible. Legit jobs are hard to come by and don’t pay well. But with romance scams, they can score big. And then they have a tendency to splurge each windfall and need more.

One of the boys the author interviewed got out of the scamming life for the sake of his grandmother – but his prospects are bleak, and his family doesn’t have enough money for him to attend secondary school or continue with his apprenticeship.

The author also interviewed one American woman whom one of these scammers strung along for years – until she finally faked her own death to make him stop contacting her. This was after she’d lost thousands of dollars and even her home. The author went on a sleuthing expedition and finally tracked her down, with the promise that he would not tell the scammer that she is alive.

An interesting note is that scams go in waves. People are getting wise to the ways of romance scammers, and the Yahoo boys give each other tips of new things to try. The author interviewed one woman who was running adoption scams for tens of thousands of dollars, for example.

By the end of the book, while I still think that romance scams are a horrible thing to do, I feel a little more understanding of why people do them. And all the more careful about anyone I “meet” online. This book is fascinating like a train wreck, but also sad. Not only are lonely folks in the United States and Europe having their lives ruined, ultimately so are the people in Nigeria pulling off the scams.

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Review of The Crooked Places Made Straight, by Raphael G. Warnock

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The Crooked Places Made Straight

Reflections on the Moral Meaning of America

by Raphael G. Warnock

Penguin Press, 2026. 187 pages.
Review written July 27, 2026, from a library book.
Starred Review

I’m going to list this book by the senator from Georgia who is also a pastor with Christian books, but I could just as well put it in the Current Issues section (and that’s where it is on the library shelves). Because yes, Raphael Warnock talks about political issues, but they are also moral issues and issues the Bible speaks to.

This book looks at America as a great cathedral, 250 years into its construction. But like a cathedral, there’s still plenty of work to do. He uses verses from Isaiah to inspire, notably the one in the title, making crooked places straight.

He takes a more specific look at six crooked places that we need to work toward straightening: poverty, voting rights, money in politics, mass incarceration, gun violence, and climate change – and how the initial impacts are hitting minorities the hardest. All of these discussions come from a place of deep faith.

Here’s where he discusses voting rights:

We are in a rough place right now, fighting to save our fragile democracy. As a man of faith, I often say that I believe democracy is the political enactment of a spiritual idea. It is the notion that each of us has within us a spark of the divine. Therefore, we ought to have a vote and a voice in the direction of our country and our destiny within it.

He explains his use of Isaiah’s writings to write a political book.

Isaiah’s words are so beautiful, so sublime, that they cut right through the hopelessness of a people awash in despair. How we need this kind of bold vision in a moment like our own! The truth is that the partisan and petty rhetoric of politics today is simply too puny a language for the magnitude of the problems we face. Instead, I urge us to look to Isaiah as a lens through which to view the problems that confront us and the possibilities within and around us. The goal of this book is to lay out that vision clearly so that we can work together to build the America that we want to see.

So despite confronting some difficult problems in America today, Senator Warnock writes a book of hope and vision. He makes the reader want to play our part in building a grand and beautiful cathedral formed by “we, the people.” I hope many will read it and be motivated to take action.

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Review of Homeschooled, by Stefan Merrill Block

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Homeschooled

by Stefan Merrill Block
read by the Author

Harlequin Audio, 2026. 7 hours, 10 minutes.
Review written July 6, 2026, from a library eaudiobook.

Ouch. This true story had me doing lots of cringing for the author’s past self – as well as for some of my younger siblings who were homeschooled.

To be fair, he puts a detailed note at the end that every homeschool is different, as every family is different. He doesn’t at all advocate for abolishing home schooling, though he does think that for the sake of the kids, there should be more regulation and supervision to make sure kids aren’t sitting alone in their rooms reading comic books and not seeing other people – like he did.

This is his story of being homeschooled, from fourth grade through eighth grade. He went back to school in ninth grade, and after extremely difficult adjustment learning to take tests and write papers, he did well in high school.

His homeschooling happened in Texas when laws had recently been changed to pave the way for home schooling. His mother essentially wanted to keep him her little boy and have him with her at all times. She took him out of school ostensibly because school was crushing his genius. It wasn’t religious homeschooling, but the “unschooling” movement. The idea was that he would “follow his passions” and “learn to learn,” but in practice, the only curriculum he followed was math and Brain Quest cards.

To be fair, he did end up as an author – writing in his room, just as he had done in homeschool. But still, the picture he paints isn’t what you’d want for a child, and included long stretches of loneliness.

But the story itself is absorbing and compelling. It’s a story not only of being homeschooled, but also about his relationship with the complex person who was his mother. And trying to find out who he was apart from her – when him being apart from her was the last thing she ever wanted.

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Review of Better Ways to Read the Bible, by Zach W. Lambert

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Better Ways to Read the Bible

Transforming a Weapon of Harm into a Tool of Healing

by Zach W. Lambert

Brazos Press, 2025. 202 pages.
Review written July 15, 2026, from a library book.
Starred Review

Better Ways to Read the Bible is full of beautiful wisdom – beautiful in the sense that it promotes love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and other fruit of the Spirit, as Zach says our Bible interpretation should do.

He starts by pointing out that everybody who reads the Bible interprets it. We don’t speak the same language or come from the same culture or time as when the Bible was written, so we can talk about “the plain reading of Scripture” – but we’re actually reading a translation during a time far removed from the original writers.

Everyone who reads and interprets the Bible does so with a set of assumptions about what the Bible is and how it’s supposed to work. This set of assumptions functions like a filter or a lens through which the reader attempts to make meaning. Although everyone reads the Bible through a lens (or set of lenses) – there is no neutral or unfiltered way to read it – many people are unaware that they’re doing so and have never stopped to take stock of the assumptions they bring to the text and how those assumptions impact interpretations.

I’m going to insert some of my own comments here. I accidentally learned about this back in the 1990s. I was reading books by George MacDonald and it dawned on me that George MacDonald, a man who clearly loved the Bible and knew it well, believed that hell is not forever. How could he possibly believe that? That’s not what the Bible says! And then I read the whole New Testament removing that filter – thinking Could this possibly be true?, and I saw how I could read passages completely differently. And focus on different passages, which with a fresh filter seemed to plainly say that all will be saved.

Or even when I was a teen and memorized John 9, where Jesus heals a blind man. The religious leaders say to the blind man, “This man is not from God, for he does not keep the Sabbath.” Even as a teen, I saw that those leaders were “proving from Scripture” – or their understanding of Scripture – that Jesus was not from God. It made me forever after be willing to question my interpretation.

And this book gives the reader tools for questioning their interpretations. He asks the reader to question the lenses they’re bringing to reading the Bible. He starts with lenses that cause harm (and he has plenty of examples from real people): “The Literalism Lens,” “The Apocalypse Lens,” “The Moralism Lens,” and “The Hierarchy Lens.”

And then he talks about four lenses that promote healing: “The Jesus Lens,” “The Context Lens,” “The Flourishing Lens,” and “The Fruitfulness Lens.” And yes! These chapters fill me with the joy of recognition. Back to applying it to where I first diverted from my Evangelical upbringing, I was told that believing in universal salvation was just wishful thinking, too good to be true. But isn’t our faith supposed to be good news? The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

And yes, he applies that to people who have been rejected by churches. That doesn’t fit any of the healing lenses above.

The Bible has always been the church’s book. It belongs to the people and is best interpreted within a healthy and diverse community. That’s how I know that the lenses I’ve been talking about promote healing rather than inflicting harm. Not because a scholar said so or because I cracked some code, but because I’ve seen them bring healing, wholeness, and flourishing to our community at Restore for a decade.

So I highly recommend this book. If you’ve ever been harmed by someone’s use of the Bible, there’s healing here. And if you love the Bible, you’ll find reasons to love it more.

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